Thursday, April 3, 2025

Nec aspera terrent

Photo by Karim MANJRA on Unsplash


Wie geht's?

Wondering about 'Nec aspera terrent'? It means - don't be frightened by difficulties.

Box on. To get to easy you often have to go through hard.

Speaking of Latin mottos - I'm reminded of the M.A.G.S. one - Per Angusta Ad Augusta - through hardship to glory.

I love that idea. 

Love and peace - Wozza

P.S. I've moved on to my next book by Ryan Holiday - Courage is Calling. Bound to be some references to that in the next few posts, as we gear up for our trip to America for Samantha and Andrew's wedding.

Sunday, March 30, 2025

Everybody grows and so it goes (Graham Nash)



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Watching Adolescence on Netflix has dredged up some memories of working and advising in some UK schools (more on this on Baggy Trousers tomorrow).

It's easy for me to view living in the U.K. with nostalgic rose-tinted glasses, but there are obvious negatives. I love many things about England, Scotland and Wales, but modern life, phones, and the omniscient social media pressures have added so many complexities that everybody has to deal with.

Of course, all of those things exist in New Zealand as well, but for some reason the toxicity levels seem way higher in the U.K. Maybe it's tribalism, sheer numbers, or economic reasons - I'm not sure.

I like a simple life and when I get scenes from Leigh-on-sea on my Facebook feed that feature idyllic scenes around old Leigh, it is easy to lapse into misty-eyed longing for a life living in Victoria Avenue, shopping at Cost-Cutter, Wimpy's, Fives, moseying along The Broadway and walks along the shore toward the Leigh-on-sea C2C train station.

Even living in The Grand for a couple of weeks before we found the Victoria Rd flat can bring a smile to my face. Then I remember Jacky saying, "I want to go home", the girls being sick from the flight, the pigeons in the bathroom, the sticky floor in the bar as we had breakfast...I'm sure you get the idea.

And yet...and yet...

Then I remember those scenes from Adolescence.

Love and peace - Wozza

Tuesday, March 25, 2025

I wanna take the breath that's true (Mazzy Star)



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I've finished reading the Ryan Holiday book I've been using as blog material on here and in Baggy Trousers for the last few weeks (Discipline Is Destiny).

One of my favourite bits turned out to be in the Afterward, and is probably the reason his words resonate with me so much - we are brothers!

This is the bit:

Aware of my tendency to do things compulsively, I don't drink, or smoke, or take recreational drugs of any kind. I avoid the steady drumbeat of the increasingly negative news media, trying to remain positive and to keep up the good fight in a broken world. I keep my ego in check and, to the best of my ability, my temper too. I do my best to be a good husband and supportive spouse. I get my sleep. I keep my desk clean - or cleanish. I eliminate tasks and delegate the ones that others can do.

How refreshing that he feels comfortable enough to reveal all of that. I can add to my - what would Graham Purdy do? approach to now include - what would Ryan do?

Love and peace - Wozza

Thursday, March 20, 2025

Forgetting to give back, isn't it a pity (George Harrison)



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Everything about the recent deaths of Gene Hackman and his wife, Betsy Arakawa, is sad and a sobering reminder about life and its responsibilities.

The news details are stark:

Gene Hackman died of natural causes about a week after his wife Betsy Arakawa, who died after she contracted a rare virus.

A New Mexico medical investigator said Hackman died from coronary artery disease, and his advanced Alzheimer's meant it was possible he was not aware his wife had died in their home several days earlier.
Dying alone like this is tragic. 

I've been thinking about the circumstances a lot. Things like - who was checking on them? Did his children from a previous marriage (he had one son and two daughters: Christopher Allen, Elizabeth Jean, and Leslie Anne Hackman) not contact them regularly? If not, why not? He was 95 years old!

The duty of a child is to be there, no matter what. 

Rest in peace Betsy and Gene.

Love and peace - WNP

Sunday, March 16, 2025

Attack the dawn



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I am an early riser, but you know that already. It's not for everyone, I get that.

I was interested in reading about the idea of seizing the early morning in Ryan Holiday's Discipline is Destiny.

He mentions Toni Morrison as someone else who shares my proclivity for getting up at sparrow fart. It's not just about getting up early for the sake of it. It's about being productive at that time of the day.

  • Wake up.
  • Show up.
  • Be present.
  • Give it everything you've got.

My protestant work ethic likes this. 

As John Wayne says (I think it was in The Searchers), "We're burning daylight".

Love and peace - Wozza

Tuesday, March 11, 2025

What can you endure?

FDR in 1941


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What does it take to endure? According to Ryan Holiday in Discipline Is Destiny, it takes pushing through frustrations, pushing through criticisms and loneliness. Pushing through pain.

I know a little about this (I stress - a little). As I've written about before - from a very young age, I knew I wanted to be a teacher, and a teacher with a Master's degree in English. As I steadily failed everything at school, got turned down twice to join Teachers' College, and received a staggering number of rejection letters for jobs, I endured.

The back pain that I wake up with every day is something I endure. People have passed away who I care about deeply, but I endure.

I'm not special - everyone in the blogosphere can name similar things.

And there are plenty of inspirational stories and examples from the past, but I find the story of Franklin Delano Roosevelt especially encouraging.

He was struck down in the prime of his life by a virus that left him permanently paralysed from the waist down. His recovery took seven years of painful physical therapy and exercise. He laboriously taught himself to walk short distances while wearing iron braces on his hips and legs, by swiveling his torso while supporting himself with a cane.

FDR refused to accept his fate and became the only US President to serve more than two terms in office (an amazing four) through the depression and then World War II.

Ryan Holiday:

We will taste pain on this journey through life. That's a fact. We will be given a million opportunities to stop, and a million reasons why that's okay.

But we can't. And it's not.

We keep going.

We put our butt in the chair.

We will not be deterred.

Love and peace - Woz

Thursday, March 6, 2025

Hooked on a feeling (Blue Swede)

Photo by Obi - @pixel9propics on Unsplash


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Ryan Holiday asks two great questions in the chapter headed 'Quit Being A Slave' (Discipline Is Destiny):

  • What are you hooked on?
  • What do you have trouble doing without?

You may want to reflect on those two questions as I've been doing since reading them last week.

Seneca says, "Show me a man who isn't a slave". We all have something.

It's easier for me to tell the things I'm not addicted to, rather than admit the things I do have trouble doing without.

I've never smoked, never taken recreational drugs, never drunk alcohol to excess, never been a work-aholic, never been a slave to money, and never been addicted to gambling. 

At one time I did have ambition as a leader and I clearly aimed for promotions, but no longer. I don't crave likes on social media and although I still like Coca-Cola, I can live without it. In the past, and especially in my youth, I was hooked on playing sport of many kinds - tennis, squash, running, badminton, softball, cricket, football, but no more. At various times I've also been hooked on certain TV programmes like Seinfeld, 24, Lost In Space...but not now. I could cheerfully do without a car and my phone.

So, what can't I do without? Walking, reading, collecting records, listening to music, and blogging. I am a slave to those activities, but I would argue - they are not bad habits. The reverse is true, actually - they are habits that keep me healthy, active, relaxed and self-reflective. Like this post.

Love and peace - Wozza

Sunday, March 2, 2025

Training from morning to night (Musashi)



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While in Auckland last week I walked to Mt Eden shops and found a cool bookshop. They had a copy of Ryan Holiday's Discipline is Destiny.

I've already bookmarked a large number of pages that resonate with my life.

His chapter heading 'Practice...Then Practice More' is an example (Americans sensibly use practice with a c for both noun and verb). The plain message is clear from the heading, but the writing of Musashi (a samurai warrior) spells out things well: A thousand days of training to develop, ten thousand days to polish.

That's basically 30 years of practice. But really - I think he's indicating that the practising/improvement never stops.

I spent a lot of my childhood practising my football skills. My brother wasn't a sporty guy, so I didn't have his help, but, in autumn/ winter/ spring I had our empty family swimming pool to practise in. I spent hours kicking a ball around the pool - hitting angles, running, passing, trapping the ball, give and goes. Hours and hours.

I started playing football for Eden A.F.C. when I was 4 years old. By my mid-thirties I had completed my 30 years of practice, but I never considered myself the finished product.

Practice...Then Practice More. Absolutely right.

Love and peace - Wozza

Tuesday, February 25, 2025

Yo, waddup Auckland? I gotta lot of love for you. But this one I don't know (Master MC)

View from Mt Eden


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You find me in Auckland and my mate Kevin Simms' place while Jacky spends time recuperating in Gillies Ave.

Auckland is my hometown, and I love visiting. I lived here from 1957 to 1983 and then returned a few times with Jacky and the family for teaching jobs at Macleans College (1986 -1989) and my old school - Mount Albert Grammar (1995 - 2000). 

I support the Auckland Blues, Auckland F.C., Eden F.C. Marbecks' Records, Real Groovy Records, and the Royal Oak/Greenwoods Corner/Mt Eden area will always be a part of me.

My best friends live here, too.

But, I don't think I could live here again. The family house at 18 Korma Ave became a green space many years ago so Auckland no longer feels like home (if you know what I mean).

Win the rat race and you're still a rat.

Love and peace - Wozza

Thursday, February 20, 2025

Light tomorrow with today (Elizabeth Barrett Browning)



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I have that cartoon on my classroom wall; one of my Year 9 students read it the other day and we had a discussion about half empty (his choice) and half full (mine). He was fixated on his point of view, couldn't see mine.

Isn't that so true of many people?

Mind you - he's only 13, I'm 67, so I've seen a tad more of the world. He's got time.

As Van Morrison says:


"When the child was a child 

It gagged on spinach, on peas, on rice pudding

And on steamed cauliflower

And now eats all of it and not just because it has to"


Or is that just me being half full again?

Love and peace - Wozza

Sunday, February 16, 2025

If a person puts even one measure of effort into following ritual and the standards of righteousness, he will get back twice as much (Xunzi)

Photo by Oveth Martinez on Unsplash


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Ryan Holiday devotes a whole chapter in his book Stillness Is The Key to routines (the chapter heading is a command - Build a Routine).

I was chatting at lunch on Friday with my colleagues in the English and maths departments 'bout daily routines I've long adopted. So long, in fact, that they've become rituals - sanctified and holy (in Ryan's words).

Some of my colleagues have known me for a few years now, so it was no surprise to them as they watch me eat the same thing for lunch every day (a tin of tuna - lemon and black pepper, with 6 Kruskits), that I also have the same thing for breakfast every day (three weetbix with cold milk).

I have written about my love of routines many times in my blogs (here's an example from Baggy Trousers), and it's a comfort to read how much value writers such as James Clear and Ryan put on them.

Are routines boring? No. They are not! They are a source of comfort and stability, the platform (according to Ryan) from which stimulating and fulfilling work is possible. Agreed!

Examples abound in his book, but I like this one especially, of point guard Russell Westbrook:

He begins his game routine three hours before tip-off. After two hours of warmups he visits the arena chapel. Then he eats a peanut butter and jelly sandwich (always buttered wheat bread, toasted, strawberry jelly, Skippy peanut butter). At exactly 6 minutes and 17 seconds before the game starts he begins the team's final warm-ups. He wears the same shoes for games, has the same free throw routines and calls his parents at the same time every day, and on and on.

Russell and others know that in an unpredictable world, good habits and routines are a safe haven of certainty. Yes, those are Ryan's words as well.

My own wake-up routines are a case in point:

I wake at 4.30am every day. I never hit snooze, as I get up I think each morning about Dicky Fox and his routine of loudly clapping hands and saying, "It's going to be a great day!" (if I did this out loud Jacky would kill me). I then have the same daily routine before getting breakfast (those three weetbix, one cup of tea): shave, deodorant, after-shave, put on my watch, a wrist bangle, a necklace that Jacky gave me over 40 years ago (in that order), feed the dogs and cat. After emptying the dishwasher I have breakfast, message my mates the day's song for our playlist, read a book/ publish my daily weblog before waking Jacky at 5.45am, and on and on.

I actually feel very relaxed and calm following this routine. It sets me up for my busy day as an English teacher.

Most people wake up to a barrage of potentially overwhelming choices: What do I wear? (I always iron a shirt the night before); What should I do first? What do I do after that?; What should I eat? And so on and so on.

As Ryan says, this is exhausting! A whirlwind of competing impulses!

The answer is simple: build a routine!

Love and peace - Wozza

Tuesday, February 11, 2025

We have just one world (Dire Straits)

Jacky, Wozza, brother Ross, Lynda and their son Scott - Feb. 8 2025


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Recent visitors to Wozza's World have been my young brother and his family (minus Hayden, their eldest son). We live in different parts of NZ these days, so face to face has been rare since the last time we met up in 2016.

As the Dire Straits song Brothers In Arms says

There's so many different worlds
So many different suns
And we have just one world
But we live in different ones
That said, for the first 20ish years we lived together with our mother and father (who I felt smiling down on us during this reunion) and we were a really tight nuclear family - DulcieGrahamandtheboys.

I don't feel we've changed a lot since those days. Do any of us?Fundamentally, Ross and I are still who we were, and our interests have most definitely stayed the same since we were teenagers. We both turned out alright.

I was great to catch up with the northern most Purdys at Rush Monro's Ice Creamery in Hastings for an ice cream. Our dad was a big fan so it was a very fitting place for a reunion. Love you bro!

Love and peace - Big brother

Thursday, February 6, 2025

Get out now

Photo by Steffan Mitchell on Unsplash

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In the past I've proselytised about the advantages of walking and I've mentioned the walk I sometimes take that is guarded by a crazy territorial magpie.

Of late, Jacky and I have reclaimed this walk (with Rey and Jerry in toe) - lo and behold - the magpie is nowhere to be found! Maybe it's not nesting season. Rest easy, I'll keep you updated.

We like this walk. John Stilgoe would approve:

Get out now. Not just outside, but beyond the trap of the programmed electronic age so gently closing around so many people...Go outside, move deliberately, then relax, slow down, look around. Do not jog. Do not run...Instead pay attention to everything that abuts the rural road, the city street, the suburban boulevard. Walk. Stroll. Saunter. Ride a bike and coast along a lot. Explore.

Ryan Holiday quotes that passage in Stillness Is the Key with the message - Don't let the beauty of life escape you.  

Tautoko!

Love and peace - Wozza

Sunday, February 2, 2025

Keep a notebook (Jack London)

Photo by Mike Tinnion on Unsplash


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Following Ryan Holiday's push in Stillness Is The Key, I've started a nightly routine of writing a journal entry before heading to bed.

I've kept journals/diaries off and on for decades. Mostly it's been when I've traveled overseas. I always keep a journal then because so much happens in a day - it's good to keep a record, and yes, I do re-read them from time to time. They conjure up great memories/feelings.

A daily journal is different though and I'm aiming to not just do a list of what happened in the day. Instead, I'm aiming to use it to get things off my chest, have quiet time with my thoughts, clarify those thoughts, and separate the harmful from the insightful.

But, as Ryan points out - there is no right way or wrong way, the point is just to do it.

So, I've carved out a space - just before bed each day, for a few minutes of reflection that both demands, and creates, stillness.

Love and peace - Wozza

Tuesday, January 28, 2025

Oh, love is snakes and ladders (Joni Mitchell)

Photo by Andrew Hua on Unsplash


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2025 is The Year of the Snake.

In some western traditions the snake may have negative connotations (possibly influenced by the cunning, deceptive snake in the Garden of Eden), but not in Chinese traditions. 

The Year of the Snake in Chinese culture symbolizes wisdom, transformation, and introspection. People born in the Year of the Snake are believed to be intuitive, strategic, and intelligent. In the Chinese zodiac, the snake is associated with charm, elegance, and acumen.

Jesus advised his followers to be as wise as snakes and as innocent as doves.

Matthew 10:16 'Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves, be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves'.

A co-incidence? I think not.

Love and peace - Wozza

Thursday, January 23, 2025

Choose love

Mark Andrews dramatically drops the ball against the Bills in icy conditions


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The NFL playoffs have contained some hugely entertaining games so far. 

It was good to see the Commanders beat the Lions and sadly the Rams couldn't quite beat the Eagles. The Kansas City Chiefs march on, and so do The Buffalo Bills (I'm no fan of the Baltimore Ravens - always The Steelers' chief nemesis).

During The Bills/ Ravens game, Ravens' tight end Mark Andrews had a chance to tie the game but he wasn't able to hold on to the pass. I felt for him (after I celebrated the fact the Bills had won) because I don't know anything about him and he's just a football player playing a game to the best of his ability. There are never any guarantees in sport.

As the photo above shows, it was really cold at the Bills' home field. It was also extremely late in the game - fatigue was surely a factor. So, he failed to catch the ball. The Ravens were playing catch up. Plenty had happened already before the last seconds of the game. During the game, he'd made some big plays to keep them in it. A tied game wasn't their fate.

Arsenal's Kai Havertz also copped a lot of social media hate after a bad week. Anyone targeting him and/or his family are not true gooners, in my opinion. It was shocking to read about his wife pleading for a fair go. What do these people think - he's deliberately missing goals? What a world we live in.

Of late, I've noticed a nice message on the back of some NFL team helmets as part of an NFL social justice programme. 'Choose Love' seems a good message to share and take onboard.

Havertz and Andrews (as well as screeds more) play the game they love. They need to know they can stuff up from time to time and yet, they'll still be loved.   

Love and peace - Wozza

Sunday, January 19, 2025

Round and round the ring I go, I want to know, I want to know (Paul McCartney)



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Stillness is the key, is the message by Ryan Holiday in his book Stillness Is the Key.

Before footballers take a penalty, a free kick, or even a corner, they pause, centre themselves, and breathe in, breathe out. A deep breath in. A deep breath out. Then they complete their play.

As Ryan says:

Stillness is what aims the archer's arrow. It inspires new ideas. It sharpens perspective and illuminates connections. It slows the ball down so that we might hit it. It generates a vision, helps us resist the passions of the mob, makes space for gratitude and wonder. Stillness allows us to persevere. To succeed. It is the key that unlocks the insights of genius and allows us regular folks to understand them.

And that's just from his introduction. More from Ryan in the next few posts, I'm sure.

Love and peace - Wozza 

Wednesday, January 15, 2025

Waiata o Aotearoa


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The world famous in NZ Wander To Wozza's Music Club (a.k.a. me and two amigos), has embarked on a new playlist that should be of interest. It's a quickfire 30 favourite songs by Kiwis from each of us. We're only just a week into it, so you can watch our progress in real time as I add three songs to it daily.

It's called WTWMC - Kiwi Pik n Mix.

The thing I've noticed already is the vast range that Kiwi music covers through the years and through the genres. So far, my favourites and G-Whizz's have tended towards the seventies bands we grew up with, but Kevy's are much deeper cuts of recent Kiwi musicians. It makes for a thrillingly eclectic mixtape.

Frinstance, in these early exchanges G-Whizz has chosen his first ever single purchase (My Son John), and I went for a song by Chapta from 1971's Loxene Golden Disc, one of my first albums [Kevy's first album was Mental Notes btw]. These seminal exposures to music and Kiwi music specifically are indelibly imprinted into our senses and brains.

And if you're NOT interested, well, you should be. This is our music, as in our shared NZ history. It's different to the rest of the world, and, most importantly, it still holds up!

Check out that playlist, will ya!

Love and peace - Wozza

Saturday, January 11, 2025

Well if you don't know how to do it, I'll show you how to walk the dog (Rufus Thomas)

Top dogs.


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Thanks to Jacky and the girls' influence, we have always had pets. The list is long but off the top of my head I can think of a hamster, love birds, mice, canaries, lorikeets, cats, horses and of course, dogs.

Most days we find ourselves surrounded by our current crop of pets: Laney, Gracie, Rey and Jerry. They love us, and we love them. Our empty nest isn't so empty after all.

Grace

Jerry

Rey


Laney


It's always hard when we have to say goodbye to one.

Sadly, we had to say farewell to Tango this week. That was hard because he's been part of Jade's life (and also our life) for 12 years. Rest in peace, Tangie.




He joins an illustrious list of canine friends that we have had to say goodbye to over the years.

So, raise a glass and remember/celebrate all of the pooches - from Wynton, Bazil, Dukie, Finn, Dory and Tango to our current buddies Rey and Jerry. 

Love and peace - Wozza

Monday, January 6, 2025

There's a world where I can go and tell my secrets to (The Beach Boys)


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I'm enjoying this weighty tome, and I mean weighty - feels like it's about 7kg. 

I love The Beach Boys' music and I love California (the actual place and the mythic place of eternal youth and endless summer). The two go hand in glove.

Jacky and I have loved our Californian adventures with Samantha; traveling the Pacific Coast Highway between Monterey and LA.

Heading up the coast last time was during a freak storm - lots of rain and rocks hitting Fanfa's car in dramatic fashion. That was very unlike the sunshine of our first trip down the 101 from San Francisco.

Have you ever been south of Monterey?
Barrancas carve the coastline
And the chaparral flows to the sea
'Neath waves of golden sunshine
And have you ever been north of Morro Bay?
The south coast plows the sea...
 
(From California Saga by The Beach Boys)

The Beach Boys book is made up of pictures and interviews with the key players and they are clear about the mythic California created by Brian Wilson and his lyrical collaborators in their songs. But it's not like mythic California didn't exist before the Beach Boys sang about surfing and cruising in cars. Like the Okies trying to escape the dust bowl, that mythic ideal has lured the people for a long time.

Travelling that coastline (and those falling rocks reminded me) is important for the soul. From time to time, it's great to reconnect with important stuff and realise how insignificant we are.

As The Beach Boys' California Saga reminds us - the eagles continue through their generations and the land endures (and puts up with us) but 'The world has changed in [the she-eagle's] time; humanity has multiplied, but not here'.

Getting a glimpse of that from time to time is good for me. That's partly why I'm drawn towards the Pacific Coastal Highway and those California myths. 

As Rumi says: When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.

And after all, the best coffee and donuts on the planet are at Big Sur.

Fun, fun, fun. Love and peace - Wozza

Wednesday, January 1, 2025

Stop wandering about!

Photo by Imran Abdul Jabar on Unsplash


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Happy new year to my family and friends and to the interweb's blogosphere!

This is a great message from Marcus Aurelius to start off the new year:

Stop wandering about! You aren't likely to read your own notebooks, or ancient histories, or the anthologies you've collected to read in your old age. Get busy with life's purpose, toss aside empty hopes, get active in your own rescue - if you care for yourself at all - and do it while you can.

Love and peace - Wozza